I wrote this one with a deep pain in my heart because it has become so rampant to see a nude picture or sex tape of a sister or friend on social medias these days. This post is for the woman that has been manipulated in the name of love, it’s not intended for likes or comments but to educate women on how to set their values and standards and also how to deal with men who do not respect them. Lots of teenagers have been misled by their so called aunties, big sisters and even brothers who do not have the guts to call a “spade a spade”
Women are vulnerable and easily manipulated, for this reason I write so when next a man asks for a nude picture they should be able to tell his intentions and defend themselves. When a man asks for nudes, he has one of the following at the back of his mind;
- His mind is set to gain absolute control over the girl in question, so each time she messes up or wants to quit the relationship, his next option is to blackmail her. So many women are stuck voiceless in such negative relationships because of a mistake they made. Please learn!
- finding out if she’s morally grounded and wouldn’t compromise her principles even in the name of love.
- Another way of telling her the relationship is over.
- Another way of telling her he values her body more than her mind and soul.
I have seen several posts about this topic and even videos, some say there’s nothing wrong sharing your nudes with your boy friend if he is mature enough not to expose or share them. Damn that’s absolute BS, the blind trying to lead the blind. A guy who loves and respects you my dear ladies will never in his right senses disrespect you to the extend asking for nudes except in the case where he’s trying to confirm your integrity and take the relationship to the next level. Remember, no man will ever want to get married to a lady who shared her nudes with every boy friend she met in the name of love! It’s natural to want to make your boyfriend happy, so it may seem hard to say no to a request like this. But here’s the thing: If your boyfriend is a good guy, he’ll have more respect for you when you stay true to your values. Saying no is a chance to help your relationship grow by letting your boyfriend know more about what you believe and stand for.
Dear ladies, contrary to what your “aunties”, “bigs” and “uncles” post on facebook, sexting or sending of nude pics only has one purpose, to sexually stimulate the people involved. If you are trying to remain true to your values, then this is not a wise thing to do, but if you are an aspiring porn artist and your boy friend a porn video director, then it’s your best shot.
“A word is sufficient to the wise” Henceforth any nude picture or sex tape, I will help promote the valueless people to international stardom and not facebook.
Set your values and standards and love yourself more than your boy friend. This post is for the vulnerable woman, lets say no to manipulation.
Your Voices Count(Y.V.C)